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I didn't sleep much at all (180 mins) so today's sermon might still be a random cluster. I mean, it always is. Disclaimer, everything I say is my opinion and mine alone. I do not speak for anyone else and I am not saying that I am right, but that it is merely my insight and I realize as a human being my insight may be skewed. Feel free to debate anything with me at anytime. Or scoff at me and call me an idiot. As a humans are social animals, as much as I dislike it. We are meant to hang out and be with other humans. Humanity has some subconscious rules for society that nobody really knows they follow but many know that they are there. Like the fact that if you don't look good on the outside, nobody is going to look at the inside. Despite the don't judge a book by it's cover, this is an unfortunately natural human instinct. But that's not all, every aspect of your appearance is secretly judges by someone appearance. And that's a proven hard fact. Read this, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/subliminal/201206/how-we-are-judged-our-appearance. I find it incredibly interesting, and useful. If I need to make an impression you can bet I am going to look nice for the occasion. Voice and body language are also two big points. If you speak in a soft mumbled tone then people are not going to take you seriously. If you are loud and annoying, then people will believe you are ignorant. There is a whole science devoted to all this called "the secret to getting a job"- er oops. I meant psychology. One of those things that isn't great to get a degree in (or is that philosophy) but is pretty cool to know. According to countless studies, someone will make a full judgement of you less than 5 seconds after meeting you. I can confirm this in personal experience because I have caught myself doing it. It isn't wrong to judge someone, don't get me confused. It is natural and you will do it even if you don't want to. Even the best monks will draw quick conclusions about people just for their appearance, except they are just really good at being right lmao. What I am saying is you should take care to make other people's first judgement of you be something you would like. Don't wear shitty clothes, make sure you don't smell like caked sweat, brush your teeth (if you think people won't notice, they will), and talk like who you are. If you have shit to say then say say it with passion, but be prepared to back yourself up and always walk the walk. Look at me being all benevolent, I talk shit a lot and I rarely go through with it. Pretty common lol, as I see lots of people do it. I suppose it is a defense mechanism. Makes sense. Another thing, with enough social interaction you will start to learn when someone makes that judgement and what they truly think. Can't really do it on the internet, as it needs you to learn facial expression. Words can even have no meaning behind them at all. "I love you." That's great and all, but are you talking to a friend, romantic partner, or a random guy on the street? Or does it have no meaning? No malice but no "love" either. That may have been hard to understand. When you say you love someone that can be interpreted many ways and you need to be clear on what way you want it interpreted. If you are talking to a friend, give them a pat on the back and be friendly. Otherwise it could get awkward. If it's a partner, give them a kiss or a wink or something and they'll appreciate it. If it is a random guy on the street you can just be loose and funny, give the guy a joking smile and forget it seconds after. One other thing that people do that hurts their first impression is constantly worrying about what they said. In my mind, words are kinda like missiles. You can aim 'em and all but once you shoot it, forget it. Fire-and-forget. That might be a bad analogy but frick you I have had ~250 minutes of sleep for the whole of 2 and a half days. My point is, if you worry over what you said people will pick up on it. If you said something stupid (like I tend to do) try and move the conversation away from that. If you are just worried about what you said then chill. Because number one, you already said it so there's no point in worrying about it, and two it was probably nothing. But, do not hesitate to apologize and admit a mistake if someone calls you out. Just say sorry and move on. That's what I did in my snipped topic in which I made a joke that was funny at first but fell out of taste. When people got upset I apologized and snipped it. Simple as that, and the conversation was over. I think that's gonna wrap up today's sermon. Early morning sermon I guess. Have a nice day everyone. Stay safe, stay happy, stay healthy. Godspeed.

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